We need to talk about our goals and I want to talk about marriage and I’ve tried to open up a conversation and it goes so far and then haults. Im not the nagging type, but Im just so anxious to talk. We’re great otherwise. Positive advice needed!
Kal, instead of doing the talking ask him what is his goals for your relationships and go from there. He will tell you what they are and then you will know.
Why are things such as cooperation, tolerance, effective management, positive communication,constructive criticism, organisation and teamwork important when you are in a group or team and what would happen if these skills are poor?
those ones u have mentioned above are important so that the group members can come together with a great end result with cooperation, tolerance, effective management, positive communication,constructive criticism, organisation and teamwork these all contribute to the later days of a person’s life……. i guess if your in school atm, and if u grow up and work in the public society, these skills would help u to get a decent job and so on…..and if the skills are poor,, u might not adjust to the society(public) so well
Do you know what “communication” really means to you,
personally? Does it mean the same to you as it does to
your friends, family, and co-workers?
Most people think they understand communication, but even a
dictionary describes only a sadly pale representation of the
potential reality. Definitions do usually include the notion that
communication involves more than just the written or spoken
word – but did you know that ants and iguanas communicate
with chemicals, and bees by dancing?
So, what do you communicate with your choice of personal
scents (chemicals)? Do you realize that this includes perfumes,
deodorants, soaps, shampoos, and laundry products? What
messages do you send with your individual style of dancing?
Did you know that the pupils of your eyes dilate when you are
attracted to someone?
Most people are aware of the concept of non-verbal communication,
and generally assume this means body language and facial
expressions. The Victorians, though, could carry on entire
conversations using only flowers. The same is possible with
crystals, colors, animals (use their images to avoid creating
zoos of conversational by-play!), and – with a little bit of a stretch
to accept modern-day interpretations – Celtic knotwork. There are
dozens of other symbolic languages – enough to suit everyone’s
preference and communication style!
Families and close friends usually have their own symbolic
language, even if they’re not consciously aware of it. It’s a
rare family that doesn’t have an inside joke, where a look,
a phrase, or a gesture encapsulates (symbolizes) the entire
experience and can set a roomful of people into laughter.
More complex than that are the almost instinctive
understandings that develop between people who live together
or are very close friends – all based on nonverbal symbols of
some sort.
Another seldom-explored concept involves how we communicate
with ourselves. What messages – symbolic and otherwise – are
we sending to ourselves when we overload our schedules with
too many chores and not enough relaxation, or when we speak
harshly to ourselves over small mistakes? You probably
recognize friends’ and co-workers’ tendencies to be much harder
on themselves than they are on others; do you see it in yourself?
Do you share the commonly-held belief that personal and
professional politics is somehow not quite nice, slightly
slimy and maybe even unethical, not something you really
want to be doing? Or do you recognize the wonderfully
positive impact that you can have when you choose to
become personally excellent at the broad range of
communication that goes into “playing” politics, whether
at home or in the office?
If you are one of many who believe that understanding someone’s
viewpoint means agreeing with him or her, you are missing out on
a powerful tool for reducing conflict. Likewise, if you forget that
communication styles are as varied as hair color (though not as
easily changed!), you’re condemning yourself and those around
you to frustration and missed messages.
The world of communication is as wide and varied as the people
you meet. Finding new ways to convey your message is a
lifelong venture that is wonderfully rewarding!
“The most important thing in communication is to hear what
isn’t being said.” Peter Drucker, 1909-2005, naturalized
citizen of the United States who is often cited as the ‘founding
father’ of the study of management.
Article written by Grace L. Judson.
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I’ve been broken up with my son’s mother for two years. we broke up around the time of his birth. we have maintained positive communication and teamwork since. I want to spend my life with her, is it possible?
We can’t possibly know the answer to that – it all depends upon the two of you, and why you split in the first place.
Communication is a very important part of our daily lives. The skills we use to communicate will greatly determine our level of personal happiness and fulfillment. Effective communication makes our lives work. It helps us make and keep friends. It helps us become successful within our work.
Sometimes, however, the role models we need to learn the proper skills for good communication are not available and problems may begin and persist without these skills. By modeling the basic techniques, we can teach future generations how to develop healthier relationships.
One of the biggest ways to turn persons off is through body language. Our nonverbal messages disclose much information about ourselves, our feelings and attitudes. By increasing awareness of our body language, we can convey to others our interests and likings which we in turn want to receive. We can do this by finding a close distance in which we can talk and interact comfortably and by maintaining eye contact which conveys sincerity, smiling, leaning forward when we speak, uncrossing arms and legs and allowing expressions to show.
Self disclosure is an important part of communication. It adds excitement and develops intimacy within our relationships because we are communicating information about ourselves. The risk of self disclosure will lead our relationships to the level of intimacy that we desire.
Some suggestions for this area:
-Practice sharing factual information about ourselves. When comfortable with this, move on to the next step.
-Share your thoughts, feelings and needs but only about the past or future, such as your beliefs, hopes or thoughts on the future.
-From here share your feelings and needs on a “here and now” basis. This will involve saying what attracts us to the other person, saying what we like and dislike about their behavior. This is the most difficult level of disclosure but also the most satisfying. When we risk sharing our true feelings we can become closer to others and create stronger bonds.
Other things to keep in mind when disclosing include:
-Preparing ahead of time on what we think, feel and want within our relationship.
-Being positive.
-Taking responsibility for our position by using “I” messages, such as ” I think”, “I want”, “I feel” and not using “You” messages such as “You always” or “You never”. This puts the other person on the defensive.
Listening is another important part of communication. It is our ability to listen that makes and keeps relationships going. When we show others that we are good listeners, they are drawn to us. By taking the time to listen we learn to understand others. Listening is a commitment to the understanding of how others see things. It is also a compliment to others because we are telling them we care. Listening however does not mean we have to sit still with our mouths shut. Listening involves active participation.
Helpful suggestions for healthy listening skills include:
-moving away from distractions.
-leaning forward.
-maintaining good eye contact.
-nodding and paraphrasing.
-asking questions.
-committing yourself to understanding the other person’s viewpoint.
The only way to learn these skills is by using them. It may feel awkward using these techniques at first but as we continue to work at them, they become second nature. The benefits we will gain from these skills will convince us that it is worth the initial discomfort.
Mark Webb
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