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Stop playing the game of passive communication

admin — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 00:17:59 +0000

By Sevin Philips, MFT Passive forms of communication include passive aggressiveness, guilt, silent scorn, and eye rolling or other non-verbal behavior.

Passive communication forms such as these manifest into these passive forms when we are not in environments or family systems that support our true feelings or needs.

We withhold our truth in an attempt to avoid saying something uncomfortable, confrontational or potentially upsetting. For some people, this may seem like a caring act. Upon closer examination, however, we find more dysfunction than benefit.

Our true needs or feelings get suppressed and eventually come out sideways. Passive forms of communication are not only unclear and ripe with misinterpretation but they also lead to ongoing resentment and a feeling of manipulation.

The best way to break this cycle is to ourselves be more assertive. When we have needs or uncomfortable feelings we risk the confrontation knowing the alternative to be ultimately more painful and confusing.

Steps to overcome passive communication:
1. Stop doing what you think the other person wants
2. Notice behavior in others that is unclear or unsaid
3. Check out your assumption with the other person

Examples:
1. I noticed you rolled your eyes, are you upset?
2. When you say you dont care anymore, are you trying to say you do not want to go with me?
3. When you say I am acting like a baby, are you trying to tell me you do not like my decision?

The point of this practice is to diminish the use of passive forms of communication to manipulation or control. These steps are not meant to teach or change others; they are here to change our relationship with them. We invite clear communication, support all needs being addressed and if necessary, deal with two opposing needs. www.WorkingOnRelationships.com

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admin — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:40:11 +0000

Tim Leopold, and industrial engineer with Honda, talks about his job. This video is being used as part of mycooljob.org, a production of WOSU Public media.

Mycooljob.org is designed for middle-schoolers and early high school students, to give them a taste of the real world after graduation, to show the pluses — and minuses — of real jobs. Interviews and photos of the professionals are paired with videos of them, as well as interactive blogs.

The project was funded by a grant through E-Tech, which specializes in using new technology so that Ohio learners will succeed in the world of tomorrow. The Columbus Dispatch also contributed to the site, offering free job-related content from its pages.

Four major career fields are highlighted:
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admin — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 01:11:01 +0000

Jamie Horton from EMC Computer Systems has found it a pleasure to work with Speak First, who provide Presentation Skills training for the company. Being a highly sales-based company, EMC staff have to be able to deliver high impact sales presentations and Speak First have tailored training programmes to help them achieve just that. These programmes include courses such as Presenting with NLP, Powerful Presenting and Effective Communication. Speak First worked hard to understand the exact needs of EMC and to specifically tailor their training to those requirements.

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admin — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 21:27:22 +0000

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admin — Thu, 07 May 2009 11:22:10 +0000

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